Embryo transfer day—it’s one of those days filled with a special kind of hope. After all the steps that lead up to this, you’re finally here, and it feels like everything you’ve been working toward is within reach. I’ve had four transfers now, and each one brings that same mix of excitement, anticipation, and possibility. Here’s what the experience has been like for me, plus a few things I’ve learned along the way to help make the day as smooth and meaningful as possible.
Preparing for Transfer Day
Before the big day, your clinic will likely give you instructions to follow—things like activity and medication guidelines, which can vary based on whether it’s a fresh or frozen transfer. For me, I’m also asked to drink about 32 ounces of water about an hour or two before the procedure. This is to help position the uterus for the ultrasound.
On the morning of transfer day, I like to take a little time to just breathe and move. A gentle stretch or a short walk does wonders, helping me shake off any nerves and get my mind in the right place. And if you’re going through this journey with a partner, bring them along! It’s one of those moments that feels even more special when you’re in it together.
At the Clinic: What Actually Happens
Once you’re at the clinic, things get serious but also exciting. They’ll have you verify your name and details several times to ensure everything is in perfect order—this is one of those situations where you definitely don’t mind the extra caution.
When it’s time for the transfer, they’ll help you get settled. A speculum is placed, and then a thin catheter is gently inserted through your cervix. I won’t sugarcoat it—it can be uncomfortable. I get some mild cramping from the catheter, but honestly, the hardest part is the full bladder while they press the ultrasound probe. After the catheter is in place, the embryologist will carefully transfer the embryo into it. My clinic even has a live video feed so we can see our embryo on a screen, and then can watch that little flash on the ultrasound as the embryo is placed in my uterus.
One of my favorite parts is that my clinic gives us a printed photo of our embryo. I still keep our last three embryo photos on the fridge—they’re small reminders of all the hope and love that go into this journey.
Celebrating the Moment
After each transfer, my husband and I make a point to celebrate with a little tradition—brunch. It might sound simple, but it’s our way to mark the day, enjoy the moment, and stay connected. Those little moments mean a lot, especially when the journey is full of ups and downs.
After the transfer, you might feel a mix of emotions—hope, excitement, nerves. Physically, you might experience some light cramping or spotting, which is normal, but your doctor will go over what’s okay and what isn’t.
Taking Care of Yourself Afterwards
For the days following the transfer, I’ve been instructed to keep things low-key—no intense activity, but also no need to totally put life on hold. Essentially, I treat myself as if I’m pregnant: I stick to my prenatal vitamin, eat well, stay hydrated, maintain light activity and limit caffeine.
And now we come to the hardest part: waiting. I know how tempting it is to test early, but trust me, waiting for the official test date is so much easier on your heart. Early tests can mess with your emotions, and after everything you’ve been through, you deserve some peace.
Final Thoughts
Embryo transfer day is a big day. If you’re about to go through it, know that you’re taking an incredible step forward. Take it all in, stay present, and lean on your support system if you can. Everyone’s journey is unique, and there’s no one right way to experience this. Just remember to be kind to yourself—you’ve come so far already.
Wherever you are in your journey, know that you’re not alone. Wishing you hope, strength, and a whole lot of grace as you move forward.
What was your experience like on transfer day? If you’ve been through it or are preparing for your first one, I’d love to hear your thoughts, tips, or even the little rituals that helped make it special.
